How do I tell my friend she is a poor listener?

I have a friend who I spend quite a lot of time with. She talksgreat deal about herself, repeating stories over and over. When I talk about most anything going on in my life, she frequently seems disinterested, sometimes changing the subject in the middle of my conversation. I shared my hurt with her on one or two occasions and she blamed ADD. I have no idea how valid that is, but I’m skeptical. I was frustrated the other day when I once again shared something about my life with her and she didn’t appear to be listening. I told her I didn’t know if she was listening because she didn’t give the usual verbal interjections that one who is listening might express. She got mad and stormed off. I feel like this is a one sided relationship sometimes. Is there a way I can let her know how I feel without making her angry?