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What is the appropriate reaction to being stood up?
I was talking to a friend on Friday, and he asked me if my schedule was open to meet with him on Saturday. I had plans already, but I told him I would come home early so he and I could get together.
I asked him if he was sure he was going to come by, and he said “definitely.”
Anyway, I called him around 5:00 p.m. and he sounded wishy washy. I told him to text me “yes” or “no” by 10:00 p.m.
Well, he didn’t contact me. On Sunday night, I finally heard from him.
He said he ended up “lounging and sleeping” on Saturday. I asked, “Why couldn’t you text me and tell me you weren’t coming?” and he said he said I needed to quit playing the victim; he was trying to teach me a lesson.
He said I should never count on someone to make me happy, and I shouldn’t have any expectations of others. I told him that he lacked integrity by not keeping his word, and it was inconsiderate.
Is there a right way of dealing with this kind of situation?
Did I have a right to be pissed? Or am I being immature?
If someone makes plans with you and then doesn’t show up, how do you react?
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