Fact from fiction, truth from diction. On the surface it seem like good logic. If I like handball and she don’t then if I want to go play handball I find other like minds to enjoy the game with. Same if it were chess, Hearts, bowling, etc. However, I can enjoy those activities with people I hardly care about or know and I don’t have to be emotionally hot for them for me to have fun doing an activity with them. Plus it would be quite a feat for me to bring home an STD from bowling with someone or having a child pop in the picture. With sex it is usually done only with the opposite sex and rarely just with any Tom, Dick, Harry, Jane, Jill, or Janet. With sex it isn’t usually ”I have this itch and the 1st person of the opposite sex that shows I will scratch it with them”. With sex there is usually a connection in the mind, be it lust, infatuation, or believed love, to get naked with someone else is not as small a matter as many believe, even if seemingly done quickly and with ease.
I would ask before it even got there it was something that should have been a topic for high discussion. Even in areas of the bedroom you never can assume just where the other’s limits and boundaries are. I think people are too quick to go off boinking in a relationship because somehow that has become the benchmark to where the relationship is going. It is almost as if your relationship is DOA or on life support if you have not swapped body fluids by date #3.
To use the excuse “I had to because I wasn’t getting completed in the relationship” is a cop out or people who really are lost and don’t know themselves. No matter what the circumstances one should always be complete in themselves before getting into a relationship. The other person should just complement you not create you or fill some vacuum.
Lacking such I guess if they are both feeling incomplete and needing someone else other than their partner to try to fill that gap and they are both agreed they can fill it outside their union I guess no one can say they can’t try. The danger is what if one or the other starts to feel they are completed by their fling? It would then be very illogical to stay in the relationship you are in. That would also logically say you are not committed to the relationship good or bad because the moment something better comes you jump ship and board another vessel.
If everything was cool in the relationship but one was bored sexually then they should talk about it to find common ground or a workable solution. They should be able to do that if they were ever seriously committed in the 1st place.