More often than not, I find the term “bisexual” to be psychologically comforting makeup people use to ease their conscience, or to make people believe that they still have a shot at “normality”. I have yet to meet someone face-to-face that not only identifies with the term, but who accurately demonstrates that the term is an adequate description of their sexuality.
I understand all of the “Just be who you are!” and “Love doesn’t need a label” talk, I think it’s well meant and well hearted, but, I find this is just another thing people do to avoid reality – which, I suspect the problem in this particular situation to be.
Based on what you’ve described, it sounds like your friend is gay and in severe denial and uncertainty. I dont know your friend and I think only he knows what his sexuality really is.
On that note, I think it’s an issue of reality and inner demons that he’s having a hard time dealing with. He has all of the evidence right in front of him and he probably already knows everything he needs to know to confront reality but he’s suffering mentally, and therefore unable to make take this step.
I highly, highly recommend therapy for your friend. Not drugs for depression from his family doctor, but good, helpful, skilled psychotherapy from a licensed professional. Especially if he has been suicidal in the past.
I wish you and your friend all the best, regardless of what happens.