I absolutely concede that having a biological is the “natural” way to go – thus the strong urge to do so felt by many people.
My point is that pushing beyond your natural urges and making a purposeful, logical decision to adopt one of the thousands of children without homes is what’s best for those children.
And while there are dozens of reasons to have a biological child (many listed above), none of them are about the child in my opinion.
The parents want to know their child’s family medical history – just in case. The parents want to look into their child’s eyes and see themselves (or their ancestors). The parents want to pass on their DNA or family name. The parents want to feel a super special bond with their child.
I understand most people feel these are valid and perhaps they are – but all any child wants is to be loved and raised with loving people.
All those other reasons don’t mean a thing to a child with no family.
And, as @Blondesjon illustrates, an adoptive family is no guarantee of a loving family – however there’s thousands of examples of biological parents abusing and mistreating their children daily. Shitty parents are shitty parents regardless of the child’s origin. Cancels each other out as far as I’m concerned.
My daughter says to me last week, “Bah, did all the children from my orphanage get adopted?”
“No”, I said, “some never do.”
She thought a minute and said, “Why doesn’t everyone adopt one of them?”
“Good question” I said, “good question, Boop.”