I want to recommend a book to you. It’s good reading. “Slut: Growing up female with a bad reputation” by Leora Tanenbaum. It’s a book for anyone who has found themselves at the mercy of a double standard.
I’ve had women who because they are monogamist with one man would think me a slut. But these same women feel like they can’t say NO to anything their partner demands of them sexually. There bedrooms look like a DSM freak show. AND THEY WOULD PRESUME TO CALL SOMEONE LIKE ME SLUT? I think not. I also object to the mental healths referencing to promiscuity in overly moralistic fashion. What some people pejoratize is merely someone else pissing on a norm that makes sexual expression with other consenting adults a taboo outside the range of long term relationships.
And while women are subjected to a very lengthy list of abusive labels in regards to being sexually experienced, men are only subjected to a hand full of labels that often solicite images of romance….for example “he is a real DonJuan”.
I was a person labeled a slut in high school. I was a virgin and the time and for some time afterward. Those abusive individuals did me a great service because when I finally did take the reigns I did what I damned well pleased sexually. It has given me an edge in a knowledge base unlike the majority of women around me. As a result of my vast experience I understand how my body works and how it responds and to what. I have no qualms in getting my needs met and NOT at the expense of a lover. I don’t allow myself to be used sexually and I don’t cave in to sexual demands that I am not interested in. If a partner should leave me for that…I know I am better off without him and that other suitors wait in the wings. I have become adept at understanding how many men connect and traveled that sacred ground with many. Relationships come, grow, run their course and end for a great variety of reasons. I do not cling. I am rarely jealous. I live without view of others as my sexual possessions. And I have been truely liberated from shame.
That anyone would want to be called a slut however is in my opinion a calling in of societal double standard, and pejorative harassment. Why in the name of the goddess would you want that? If you want to be sexually liberated and follow your heart and libido than by all means do that. And use precautions against unwanted pregancy and STD’s.