Ooooooh. So that’s how it’s done!
@Neizvestnaya For most of my life, I could not have decoded “does your wife/gf find what you do exciting?” As being hit on.
If he doesn’t pick up on your subtle cues, that doesn’t necessarily mean he isn’t interested. It might only mean he has no clue you have asked him out.
And saving face????? Give me a fucking break. When men ask someone out, do they try all these complicated kinds of ruses to avoid being hurt if you turn us down? Come on. We’re not that sophisticated. For us, it’s ask or not. If you ask, your balls are on the line.
Why should it be any different for women? Just do it. Do it straight. If you’re shot down, you’re shot down. When I was a teen, I never asked. I was never shot down, but I also never went out on a date date (don’t ask me what a non-date date is).
What you need is to show you got a womb! Be brave! Be bold! Be a woman! Ask him the hell out.