If a couple is co-habiting and waiting until they have enough money to get married, sounds like they are planning on spending a lot on the ‘big day’ itself. Hey , it’s each to their own, and if thats what a person places importance on , well, thats fine.
Personally , I’m not a person for huge displays of my ‘wealth’ through weddings, parties etc.I’d rather have a ceremony and a small celebration with the people I love.
I once came across a girl who had spent £14,000 on her wedding dress, and two weeks after the wedding she was going to work in Portugal as a dancer for a year, and her hubby was staying in the UK during that time. I know couples sometimes live apart for work reasons, but her whole attitude towards the marriage was very relaxed. She wasn’t very bothered, and said she had just always wanted a fairytale wedding and it was all about the dress. Don’t know if she’s still married now, but from the way she talked about her hubby I wouldn’t think so.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that spending a lot of money on your wedding / engagment rings/ honeymoon etc doesn’t mean that you love the person any more than a couple who spend very little.
My parents have been married 42 years, they got married in a registry office , during a lunchtime, had a small buffet afterwards and then just got on with their lives! No debt, no huge saving for years before. And they are still together, living a lovely life.
Just so long as you are good to each other, and honest , and respectful you don’t need all that, you don’t even need to be married. It does seem a little old fashioned and unnecessary sometimes.