My daughter has alway been tall. she is almost 6 ft. tall. she gets her height from her dad, me.
When my daughter was 16, she begged us to please let me go to this party. the party was close to where we live and i thought i knew the parents good enough, for my daughter to go. boy, was i wrong.
Coming home from seeing a movie, my wife talked me into “checking up” on our daughter at the party. we parked in a church parking lot, which is next door to the house party. we had a clear view of all the outside activities. to our surprise, we observed our daughter walking around outside with a wine cooler in her hand. we could not decide on whether to approach her at that point, or wait until she came home. my wife said, “lets go now”. we approached the closed basement door and i knocked. my daughter answered the door with another wine cooler in her hand. needless to say, i saw red. inside, on the basement floor, were approximately 15 to 20 underage teenagers….........drinking alcohol!. i told everyone to stay seated. an adult female came walking down the basement steps, holding a can of Budweiser in her hand. i told her to stop and wait for me. she did. i then looked at my watch and made this statement to the teenagers: “drop your alcohol. you have two minutes to leave this house and go home”. you have never seen such a mad dash made by 15–20 teenagers. some took out walking(running), some got in their cars and departed.
It was now time for the “party mother”. i immediatley advised her that i could arrest her for contributing to the delinquency of a minor, 15 times, one for each minor present. instead, i gave her a warning. two months later, they sold this house and moved.
Needles to say, my daughter was embarrassed by me for my actions at the party. i told her that she was lucky i did not arrest everyone for drinking alcohol. my daughter was grounded for 30 days and she did her time.
My point here is that teenage daughters trust can be very unpredictable. you have to play everything by ear and one situation at a time.
My daughter is now 41 and has children of her own. she watches them like a hawk.