@daytonamisticrip: Wow. I’m sitting here trying to think if I’ve ever done this to my children. Except I don’t drink coffee or smoke, but you know what I mean. I understand you want to approach this without using words, but ultimately, it may come to that – I know that is a difficult thought.
I think just telling her that you will need to work on something, for a set period of time, will be your only out; however, that won’t work, daily. This is why I’m thinking that you will need to approach this, but in a responsible manner.
I commend you on keeping up with things, but really, it is a bit much. I’m on board with the idea @WestRiverrat has, but still it’s gnawing at me that you will have to approach this, eventually. @marinelife has a good approach, too.
I’ll bite. Are you afraid to discuss this with her, or is it that maybe you’ve reached your boiling point and don’t know if you can handle the conversation. I’m really not passing judgment. I’m just trying to understand if a conversation could ever happen.