I think they are appropriate at times. But sometimes they are unnecessary or get in the way. I admit I have my favorites as well as a wish list, that I can’t quite justify as of yet and I used to depend on them a lot, but sometimes the best performance is you and the audience. Or you and the participant and or both. It can be more intense, more personal and creates and intimacy that has the potential to know no bounds… That is sufficiently rare, so toys are always a good back up.
On a related note, I was wondering which toys you throw away after changing partners, does it depend on the toy, relationship, or partner. Is there a set of guidelines? Why do men never find it offensive or never ask when we got the toys and how many people we have used them on, but women do?