I have to be attracted to them, but that in no way means the guy has to be very attractive. I am more attracted to someone that has a great personality, that laughs, that makes me laugh, and that I’m comfortable with.
At first, yes. I would likely not pursue a relationship with someone whom I didn’t find attractive.
That being said, appearance is definitely not the most important thing.
People I really like tend to become better looking the more I know about them.
Pretty but shallow people lose their glow and I start to notice their flaws.
I care about both. There needs to be physical chemistry, too. I had a couple of girlfriends whom I loved because of who they were, not how they looked. In the end, they didn’t work out because I stopped being physically attracted to them. Personality goes a long way, but it can’t always overcome a lack of physical attraction.
Yes, at first. Although I have low self-esteem, so I don’t require model-worthy looks in a mate. Personality then colors my views on that person . . . plus, no matter how beautiful or plain you are, eventually I will get used to your face and it won’t really matter.
Initially yes. It’s easier to pay attention to what catches your eye but when someone whose looks you’re not used to has the stamina to engage you in some conversation and get the rest of your brain involved then that can be richer and more enthralling than you imagine. The person who initially was “just there” turns out to seem like they’ve been rolled in crack dust.