The only huge control freak I know is my mom and I wouldn’t say she’s insecure, generally. She is insecure about her appearance/weight, but other than that, I would say she’s pretty good with herself.
I’m a self-control freak and I am insecure. I think people who have control issues, it stems from having no control, especially during tumultuous situations, growing up. I know that’s certainly the case for my mom… and it’s the case for me, as well, because my mom is a control freak, so I had little control, myself.