@gailcalled This is a very good all-around suggestion, not just for keeping a guy! I think I was doing a pretty good job of keeping busy with worthy activities (But mostly things a dude would not want to hear about, like making jewelry, haha) up until a few days ago. Straying very much off topic now… My friends are all starting to go back to college and I don’t know when I’m going to see them again, and my surgery is in less than a week now and I’m freaking out a teeny, tiny bit. I’m having motivation issues. I think I might be a little depressed right now. I’m sure I’ll get back on track soon enough.
@chyna More good suggestions. I do try to keep the conversation focused on him when we do talk; his life is far more interesting than mine right now. Not having any experiences in common right now makes it a little hard to relate when I’m trying to make conversation, and I’m already a terrible conversationalist, haha. But I should probably just suck it up and call him, if I want to keep up any kind of relationship!
@wundayatta Thanks for your insightful answer; much of what you said is true about me. Until now, I honestly hadn’t had a strong “crush” since maybe the eighth grade. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I have missed the intensity of that, and now that I have this, even as hopeless as it feels, it feels nice to have it. (I am alone a lot these days.)
@faye You’ve given me a good idea. I suck at phone, but I did send him a Christmas card, and he appreciated that… maybe I could get him to be “pen pals” with me? It sounds cheesey, but we’re both kind of cheesey people. And I much prefer forms of communication where I get to think about what I’m about to say for a long time (why do you think I like Fluther so much? :D). Only problem is that he, being an busy college student, might not ever have time to write back, but I’ll have to see.
Thanks everyone!