I’m never sure what people mean by this being positive all the time stuff. I am a relatively positive person but sometimes negativity is just telling or acknowledging the truth about negative circumstance.
If there’s a hole in your lifeboat just sitting around thinking positive thoughts about it is useless and stupid. And is someone supposed to say “I don’t mean to be negative… but I think there might be, maybe, just a little hole in the life boat, sorry to be such a whiner… oh, never mind, anyone want a muffin!!?” No, you say “There’s a hole in boat” but you don’t whine and bemoan and just focus on the negative either, that would be useless and stupid too. You do your best, everything you can to fix the hole and then hope for the best. I think being positive all the time, in the face of how hard and complex and painful life can be is kind of irrational if you ask me, and it trivializes live, it trivializes how hard people sometimes have to work to get through and past adversity and heartache. If someone’s 7 year old suffers and dies from leukemia do the parents have to put a positive spin on that or do they get to grieve and be angry at the universe for a while, if that’s what gets them through the night at first?
When the going gets tough, I have been at least tough enough, nothing’s put down for the count yet; when life gives me lemons I make lemonade, but when life drops a 500 hundred pound sack of shit on me, well, as @JilltheTooth said, I try to get through it with as much grace and dignity and hopefullness as I can, but I’m not Mother Teresa, I’ve railed at the universe more that a few times in my life. But I always get back up, dust myself off and start all over again, ever hopeful.