@manolla It’s easy: after you reply, simply PM everyone on the thread who has also responded, plus those who you think have checked it out, but may not have left a post and ask them. They may or may not tell you the truth.
In other words, you can’t – but the cliquiness reason is probably the closest to why the Fluther Gods decided this back then in 06 – in any event – you max out at 100 lurve anyway – so don’t sweat it. Here’s another GQ for you and welcome to flutherville.