@Sarcasm It’s easy to say you care for someone. It’s easy to lend them an ear, or be there for them when they are upset. That takes almost no work at all.
For me, the proof is in the pudding. I believe that you know someone really cares for you when they go out of their way to help you. When they visit you in the hospital or help you fix your roof. When they lend you their car. When they go to your father’s funeral. When they make food for you and vacation with you. That’s caring, in my book.
You can’t do that online. You don’t have to go out of your way to care for someone online. You can only listen or read. You can only reply to them. You may have all the empathy in the world, and that’s a good thing, but it’s not even close to the caring you can do in the real world. So I do all these things. I spend a lot of time doing online caring. But it’s virtual caring, which is very different from real caring.
For me, it’s easy to say I care for someone online, but it’s hard to prove it. Proving that I care has to be done in person. I have only met three people in the real world that I met on a Q&A site. I physically met with each one only once. It doesn’t put me in a very good light, but for two of them, I never talked to them again after I met them. That was a fail.
Only one has kept contact with me. We talk every week. We would both love to actually see each other more often, but it isn’t possible for a number of reasons, not the least of which is that there are 1000 miles between us. We care very much for each other, but there is nothing we can do for each other except talk. Talk is cheap. I’m the kind of guy who believes that it doesn’t really mean anything if you merely talk the talk. I figure I gotta walk the walk if I’m going to prove I care for someone.
As you know, I do a lot of talking. I do virtually no walking with any jellies. There are many jellies I would walk with if I could. But I can’t or won’t which means that no matter how much good advice I might give, it doesn’t count for nearly as much as making a real pie for a real @JilltheTooth would count. One real pie is worth more than everything else I have done here, as far as I’m concerned. Ok, maybe not just one pie, but definitely a Christmas dinner! :-)