My ex and I spent 4 years going through escalating infertility treatment.
We did three tries at AI (every other month). One pregnancy that miscarried at 14 weeks.
Three tries at GIFT (every third month). No luck. We got pregnant during an off month, another miscarriage.
Then we were able to get insurance coverage for three in-vitros. We got pregnant in the off-month after the second IVF try, and a baby boy 8 months later (he was early). He is now 15. The good Doctor claimed he had “primed the pump” with all the IVF preparations.
It is an emotional roller coast for both parents. Lost of disappointments, and it seems like it will never end. It seems to consume your life, that’s all you talk about. Seeing pregnant women or women with small babies feels like a sick joke. Sometimes nothing works. For a while we looked into open adoption.
And all the hormones don’t help. It was not fun waking my wife up every day before I left for work to give her a shot or two in the buttocks.
Good luck, and PM if you have any questions.