@Leanne1986 I’m torn too…..I think that men SHOULD have a say….but if a law gets passed that bans Planned Parenthoods, for instance, then NO ONE has a say, and girls who don’t yet want babies get gross dirty botched abortions in some nasty underground doctors office and get sick and die….I’m sure that’s what people want, right? I know everyone likes to combat this with “MAYBE YOU SHOULDN’T HAVE SEX TIL YOU CAN SUPPORT ANOTHER HUMAN THEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!” to which I would say something like, that is never going to happen, most people aren’t that financially stable until their late 20s at best, and no one is going to wait that long to have sex. So at least leave the option there, you know? And, like you said, if I was sleeping with a man that said “If you get pregnant, I want that baby!” and I didn’t want a baby, I’d tell him he could go to hell, he’s not the one who has to carry it for nine months and give birth.
One of my mom’s friends’ 13 year old daughter got raped by 2 kids AT CHURCH and got pregnant….the mom was against abortion, so the 13 year old had to go through hell and endless amounts of teasing and eventually had the kid, and they had to resort to moving 8 states away to get away from all the torment. So fine, that was her (or rather, her mother’s) choice, but don’t tell me that the father’s say in that is just as important.