Whether I’d like this person to be a friend or something more (if i wasn’t already attached, which I am but theoretically speaking) the three things I’d want to know, I couldn’t possibly know from a single meeting. Only experience of travelling through life a little ways with this person will tell me these things. Life would be so much easier and less painful if we could all gain the answers to the questions I’d like answered on a first meeting with a new person…..
1…. can I trust this person?
2. ...Will this person ever hurt me?
3…..is this person damaged? (because this damage may well lead to him/her damaging others, albeit without meaning to)
This last one may sound cold, but speaking as a damaged person myself, and seeing how my limitations affect my husband, who I’d happily die for in a heartbeat (except of course that would hurt him the most) life is too short and too full of hurt to go looking for it.
@wundayatta this is a GQ, thank you honey <hugs> xx