The match needs to be reasonably close, but compatibility is the key. The most intelligent man I dated was a perfect match for me intellectually and he was impressed by that. He would often say I was the smartest person he knew other than himself. Yes, he was so humble. It was also the most emotionally volatile relationship of my life. The degree of stimulation and emotional attachment was more than either of us could bear. He retreated, I moved closer; I retreated, he moved closer. To this day, he is the one I immediately want to discuss any major events with because I know it will be a fascinating conversation.
My husband frustrates me. I used to think it was because he wasn’t as smart, but one day he said something profound and it stunned me. I unintentionally insulted him by spouting out, “You do think about things!” God, how I wish he would engage in a real conversation. I bring up topics I see in the news and he is typically unresponsive. I crave intellectual debate and discussion and feel so unfulfilled in that area.
On the other hand, he can look at some things that I don’t know jack about and would probably take me years to fully grasp and just get it immediately. He just thinks differently than I do and is interested in different things.
The thing that pisses me the most is that he takes the long way to do everything. I can see a shorter, more efficient way of doing things and he won’t even consider it, especially if it is anything remotely “manly.” I have to research proof to show him that I know what I am talking about – it pisses me off no end! I think it is because it makes me feel like he thinks I am not smart enough… We were talking about concrete the other day and he made me list, step by step, exactly what I did when I said I helped my dad lay a slab when I was younger. Okay, I’m off topic. Sorry.