hmm…i’m guessing it is a maturity thing more than age.
also from my pov, it is not that abnormal of a thing to email or call an ex occasionally. most of my exes were still on speaking terms with at least 2 or 3 of their exes. i think my fiance has a hard time understanding this relationship because he has no interest in any of his exes.
and believe me, he is definitely fine with asking questions!
if it were the other way around, i would have an issue with it if 1) he hid it (which i haven’t), 2) it was only a physical relationship (mine wasn’t), or 3) they spent excessive amounts of time together (a 30min call once a week or a paragraph or two once a week doesn’t strike me as a lot)
i have bigger issues with his girl friends, one of whom comes over and cooks him dinner (appetizer through dessert) and watches chick flicks or the other friend who routinely makes overt passes, favors him at work, and laments how if she had dumped her man a week earlier they could have been together. i was not trying to say i am never jealous or that he should never be. but i think it is possible to be mature and accept quirks and things you may not understand or like about your S.O.
btw, we have pretty thoroughly discussed the above issues. i am not totally fine with things and he is not totally fine with things. however, we both whole heartedly agree that we love and trust one another. so we are willing to deal with our own insecurities whether aloud or by ourselves so that the relationship works.
and about your “window”...doesn’t this mean that any male friends i have or female friends he has have this window? should we give up all friendships with the opposite sex to appease the others insecurities? i think that may be a surer way to end a relationship.
wow! that was long!