1st time he broke up with me. I thought I loved him and was crushed. I moved on and was fine—but then after about a 1.5 or 2 year time apart we dated a 2nd time. We dated for about a year and then I broke things off (mainly because I knew I was moving across the world and we just weren’t at the point in our lives where either of us was ready for a long term commitment).
We dated a 3rd time – and again, timing wasn’t right and our lives were mis-matched..that is, we were just both focused on different things that weren’t compatible.
I think I will always love him a bit (he was my first real boyfriend and our on & off dating spanned ages 16 to 26 for me)...but it got to the point where I realized that as much as we had history and all..he wasn’t the best person for me.
From my humble experience it seems to me that some amount of timing is important in determining who you ultimately build a life with..and as for this guy and I who dated 3 times… we just weren’t “in sync” ..and it began to honestly feel like: “Hey, it wasn’t right either of the last two times we tried this, so maybe it’s just not right.”
Love isn’t ALL you need. Y’know?
Seems to me you need to have two people at the right point in their lives, with some common goals and a lot of respect and LIKE for each other..in addition to love, lust and chemistry.