You have to live your life as though you are doing enjoyable things just because they bring you joy. But it helps to pick activities where people (and men, hee hee) can be found. The best love matches come from when you find somebody who enjoys the same activities that you do. Make a list of your top 100 interests and corresponding activities that you could do that fit the interest (and try to pick activities in which you have to get out and go somewhere, even if it’s just down the street, where people (and men) congregate. Don’t just pick activities specifically because men will be there. If you don’t like football, then football is not a good choice. But on the other hand, if you happen to meet a fellow that you like, that is heavily into an activity that is not really your bag, ask yourself if you could learn to appreciate that activity. I don’t care for football, but for the right guy, I could bring my magazine to the stadium, order some nachos and have a jolly good time.
Because you are feeling poorly about your body image, make some plans to join a gym or find a group of friends to start walking or swimming or biking or rollerblading with. Even if you don’t look perfect, and God knows none of us do (except for Jeruba and Vanessuh) then you just have to let the angst about it go. Yoga could help with that, or even a tiny bit of temporary therapy, if you’re so inclined.
Learn to live happily as a single. You will become more confident just by living for your own joy and for caring about your friends and your family and maybe helping out some other folks who are not so fortunate as you (as a volunteer for example, plus I hear there are often men that volunteer, hee hee). I guess the point is to live a happy life, regardless of what happens, and none of us can predict the future. But there are a lot of lids for a lot of empty pots out there, but you have to shop on the right aisle at the restaurant supply store, if you know what I mean. Good luck to you.
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