It’s a funny thing indeed, @tallin32. I can imagine you would have to provide somewhat of an annoyed response in cases where the “helpful” person is actually being an annoyance.. otherwise, how would they learn? Communication is important for sure.
Maybe what you’re sensing is the sound of deflation itself! Have you ever had to get up only to find out (quite instantly) that you didn’t have to get up at all? Perhaps you thought your phone was ringing while you were waiting for an urgent call only to realize that it was the phone on the TV instead of your actual phone ringing. There’s often a few sounds that come with that kind of deflation. First you feel stupid so you might be like “oh!” or you might make that clicky kind of sound.. you know the one? it sounds kind of like “tsk!” as in “tsk tsk!” when someone does something they shouldn’t have. Secondly, your muscles were all tensed and ready to go so you might sigh a bit as you release yourself back into normalcy.. Then of course there’s just all the motions involved in assuming your regular position, shuffling feet and the like.. and everyone has different habits. Maybe some of the people you thought handled it well suffered the same level of deflation only that they have different deflation habits, virtually undetectable by a deflation sleuth such as yourself.
It’s an interesting situation to consider. I know I’ve certainly been on the rejected end a few times in my life. I don’t recall bearing any animosity towards someone who refused assistance unless they did so in a way that intended to bring me down a few notches.
hmm.. I guess on that note, there definitely is a “high horse” of sorts that one can get themselves on when they’re out there trying to be a do-gooder. Maybe they deserve it sometimes, lol. (sometimes! come on, at least once!) But whatever..
The people who would get offended are clearly the people who have the least experience in dealing with someone of your unique caliber. It may even be their first experience ever with a unsighted person. Ignorance is the only thing that causes people to err. Mostly, I’m sure these people deserve pity rather than fury. Go easy on these ignorant souls. Even misplaced deflation breaks down to human error rather than evil.