I believe that most women have preconceived notions about meeting men and specifically “the one.” I mean, how can they not in today’s society? Dating is a societal norm, and most people adhere to what I consider “normal dating patterns.” Dating isn’t necessarily about what the man or the woman wants to do to find a partner or a shag, but what they must do as dictated by societal standards.
Because of that, I believe most women want to be approached and wooed and have the man fulfill all of their romantic and sexual needs. They are the choosing sex (females of almost all species), which means they will be approached by many men, and men are not approached. As a man you might not think this is fair, but it is the way nature operates – Darwinism and all that. They (women) typically have more power because of this, and they can and do wait for that man that is smooth, confident, strong, etc. to fulfill their preconceived fantasies of what dating and a relationship and marriage should be and how it “should” begin.
That being said, some women will make casual conversation if they think they might be interested but still want you to initiate… everything. The men do the work, that’s just how it is.