@Season_of_Fall I’m with you completely – all the way to your last sentence. But I am not that surprised by the replies; fluther regulars are, by definition, sensitive men who write and communicate well. I say this with conviction and the experience of one who has been here for a very long time. By definition, a jelly, male or female, who cannot communicate well (read: write, so to speak) won’t last long.
Thus, most men here are probably also good communicators “IRL” and have friends from both sexes. What is friendship really? Mostly communication and maintenance.
I talk the talk, but don’t walk the walk. In other words, I’m like the shrink who is in dire need of psychiatric care; I know what to do – I just don’t do it.
I might have many “friends” here – but in reality they are thousands of miles away, usually 7–10 hours behind me (it’s literally always the next day here) and frankly, don’t even know my name or what I look like. But I lurve my fellow jellies and feel a part of the community – it’s just not, well, friendship – for me – and it certainly isn’t a guy to guy heart to heart.
For me. Others might feel differently. I envy them, if they do.