At three years old she’s still quite a young cat with plenty of energy and very playful. Plus Callies have a reputation for being real little clowns.
Many cats turn up their noses at toys requiring them to play by themselves but very very few can resist cat teasers. These look kind of like long fishing poles usually with nylon line attached to feathers or other enticing things.
Something like this may be especially good for the other members of your family because they can play with the cat without having to hold it or pet her.
She obviously craves affection and interaction and most people would love to have a cat more like that since many cats can be rather aloof.
But several play periods a day with the cat teaser should mellow her out a little.
She has obviously picked up on the fact that your other family members aren’t to keen on cats or having one in their laps so she’s just teasing them to get a little funny “revenge”.
I think she’s too smart to be “persuaded” otherwise. But maybe the cat teaser could provide a level of interaction that would be satisfactory for the other humans.
Or else you’ll be the designated playmate for kitty.
But give the cat teaser a try. I’ve yet to encounter a cat who doesn’t respond to it being dangled in front of them or dragged along the floor to be chased. It gets their prey drive to kick in and they usually love it. I can get mine leaping several feet in the air.
Hint: you do have to allow them to catch it frequently enough so they dont give up in total frustration.
As the years go on, shell be more of a docile sleeper/lap cat but she’s in her prime now, full of energy and delighted to be in a home with people to love her.