Every pair of lovers is unaware of what pleases the other at the beginning. Yes, people have a repertoire of “moves” that they may try out, but even the most practiced lover will not know all your buttons at the beginning.
You don’t have to “train” anyone really. All you have to do is ask for what you want. “Ooh, kiss me on my neck.” “Kiss my ear.” “Slower.” “Here’s my clit, could you use your finger like this?” “Whatever you do, don’t kiss my clit,” said in a very playful manner.”
And then when you do things to him, “do you like this?” “How does this feel?” “How about here?”
Tease him. Lead him on and slow him down. Make him want you badly and then use that to channel his energy to where you want it.
As long as he doesn’t freak out at these requests, you should be able to get what you want out of intimacy. If he does freak out, that means he doesn’t want to listen and he isn’t sensitive. That probably means he isn’t much of a listener anywhere and would make me wonder if I really wanted to be involved with him.