I was with my girl friend through her thick and thin for 5 years right from helping her cope with breakup to her job issues and every small thing. However, she had this habit of chatting / going out with every guy she met either in our locality or workplace. I initially did not suspect her and trusted her although I felt uncomfortable. I explained that it was hurting me and asked her if she was looking out (in which case I would have walked out). She told me that she was committed and we will settle down in few years. I took her at face value and resisted attempts from my parents to get married (I come from a culture where arrange marriage is the norm). In her last job, she again found a new guy at the workplace and she was constantly chatting and calling him. She would hide it from me and when I did found out she would tell me that it was work related. This went on almost daily in the night and this was after she spent the whole day in the same office as the guy. To ensure that I did not come across as jealous and control freak, I ignored it but did get upset once in a while. She would go out for drinks with him and then call me repeatedly next day.
Finally, I told her we should move in together. She gave me all sorts of reasons for not doing it and trying to be extra nice to me. I thought those reasons were illogical and persisted. And she just walked away.
It has been 5 long years and I feel extremely hurtful. I fail to understand how a person can be so cold hearted after being emotionally and physically involved. The fact that I am an introvert and do not have many friends here makes it even more difficult to cope up with. I try to spend long hours at work so I don’t think too much but questions keep cropping in my mind. So far I have been strong and resisted attempts to contact her.
Any advice from people in this forum will be valuable.