Your best bet is to get involved with activities that are meaningful and enjoyable for you. And it’s best to try to find activities that you can engage in with other people. Then you will be leading a happy life, anyway, and you will meet like minded people, whether or not they become your spouse. But you are very likely to find a few great close friends, and if you put yourelf out there a bit (and let these new friends know that you are also interested in romance) then they can help you out with that too. One person in the group always knows some fellow who’s also looking to find that special someone.
So what do you like to do? Needlework, reading, photography, hiking, animals, art, cooking, sports, dancing, crafting, camping, swimming, do it yourself home projects, singing, acting??? All of these activities and many more can be done with groups, whether it’s by taking a class, joining a club, volunteering for a project or forming your own group.
Make a list of 100 activities that are fun for you, then narrow it down to some that are both fun and meaningful and then start figuring out what kind of groups you are going to get involved with.
And please don’t say that you don’t think this will work for you or else you’ll be back at square one. Give this method a try for one year and see what happens. If you give it up after a week or a couple of months, you’re right, it won’t work. You have to go into it with a positive outlook and without desperation. Do these activities for the fun of it. And if you can help somebody else by some of these activities, then that’s even better.
Just don’t pick an activity that forces you to sit at home by yourself.