@klutzaroo I think it is more about being A Christian, than being in the south, its just that the south is full of Christians, so it happens more down there. Bible belt would be more accurate than south, and of course there are towns all over the US that have a majority of Evangelical Christians in their population. I can’t imagine any one of my close friends even having to consider leaving obey out, because it would never be in in the first place I think? Or, maybe I am completely clueless. Which is definitely possible.
I had no idea what my wedding vows would be, I never discussed it with my rabbi. I probably should have, but it never occurred to me. I missed the rehearsal because I was sick. I had only been to 4 wedding before my own, and could barely remember what was said, except for that one wedding which I mention above with the submissive incident.