It’s not about denying feelings at all. On the contrary. According to Daniel Goleman emotionally intelligent people who observe their feelings will eventually learn that they have a choice. Stick with feelings of revenge or not. Feelings are in fact good/healthy or bad/unhealthy in terms of what they do to our biochemistry when we look at the scientific evidence. This has nothing to do with superiority. And this isn’t about my feelings. This is about healthy and unhealthy feelings. Why do I feel a responsibility to point out to people what is good for them? I thought this is what Fluther is about. People can decide whether they want to follow or ignore advice.
“One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, ‘My son, the battle is between two wolves inside people. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, ‘Which one wins? The old Cherokee simply replied, ‘The one you feed.”
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