My male ‘friend with benefits’ is now ignoring me, because his girlfriend almost found out about us. I want to be friends with him again, but how do I get the courage to speak to him? When I’m in school I hate him, but when I’m home he’s all I think about. How do I get over the fact that I think or know he’s using me and I’m just letting it happen to me? Why can’t I speak up? I don’t want to be this girl any more. What should I do?