@Pied_Pfeffer I am not trying to take away from other forms of physical and psychological abuse. I too would probably stay if I found out my husbamd was cheating if he wanted to work through it, but he is not a chronic serial cheater. There is a huge difference, men wo cheat all the time (I am sure there are women too) behave in a way very few can imagine unless they have been through it. They lie constantly, the woman is made to feel nuts. She knows something is going on, he turns any accusation into her beng jealous and awful. He tries to expain away his inconsistencies and she wants to believe it isn’t happening. There is an emotional withdrawal of love and intamacy, the wife knows he is distracted, as mich as the man wants to believe he can act normal with his wife and fuck other women, he actually sucks at it.
My exboyfriends family, his brother was a hair dresser, he used cut hair at peoples houses sometimes. It was like the movie shampoo and American Gigalo all in one. He would cut the girls hair, have sex with her and make a lot of money doing it, while his SO was at the salon. Sometimes we were with him, my boyfriend and I, not habing sex with him, but down in the living room while he was in her bedroom. Another brother of his ran a restaurant. His wife was pregnant shortly after I met him. We would be at the restaurant at closing to go home with him, and he would be fucking a waitress in the back before we leftt to go to his house. A few months later he thought it was funny that a friend of his brought in a date, his own mistress, for dinner, and the brother I am talking about, (let’s call him Gustavo) spoke to her in Spanish at the table to meet him at the womens bathroom. She did, they had sex in there, and she returned to the table. Then in French he told his friend he just had sex with his date. He was pissed at her. The men remained friends, joking about what a slut the girl was. And, of course Gustavo went home to his wife. My ex, when he was dating the girl after me, once told me it was good we broke up, he still cheats, and had just had sex behind where he works, while his girlfriend worked inside. He seems to be different finally with his second wife. But, the cheating is so part of their day and life, it is hard for most people to imagine it I think.
And, they do not wear condoms generally. Please. Have you seen all the children being born to our politicans and their mistresess? Educated men of an age who should know better.