What I’ve noticed is that the measurement of looks seems to be value-based. I know that men and women are all attracted to different features in the opposite or same sex—looks, intelligence, social behavior, way of talking, presentation, personality, etc, etc, etc. and I really do think that’s what that person values.
I think when someone values appearance, they will find someone who supports that value to whatever degree. If someone, deep down, values other features, like intelligence or sense of humor, they’ll naturally get past the looks and be attracted to the inner-person.
I used to date an “Adonis” but everything for 7 years was all about him. Both of us were in love with him—I got tired of it and moved on. 20 years later, he’s still chiseled, still works out, still prioritizes his gym time, still tans, still can go to the beach and turn heads, but also still dates only a certain type of woman (heavily made up, super skinny, revealing clothes, looks 18, unthreatening intelligence, in her late 20’s), no matter how much older he continues to get and he literally has two values… appearance and sports. I’m embarrassed I used to “qualify” for him- I swear I didn’t look like that, ever!!
I honestly do believe he does have every right to do that, because it reflects his values, regardless of whether I agree or not… he’s allowed to be a shallow pwick the same way I’m allowed to be attracted to guys who are sharp, witty and have real things to talk about because of what I value. Is it offensive to dumb guys? If it is… shrug.