@bobbinhood Well, honey and jam are made with love and that is a totally different thing. But, getting an appliance or a vase not asked for is annoying in my opinion when there is still a whole registry of items you personally picked and need. Although a Kitchen Aid mixer is a very nice aplliance, and maybe she asked a relative of yours if you already had one? She might have put some effort into figuring out what to get you, besides the obvious effort in buying you a gift, who knows?
I received about 90% of my registry and I was thrilled. It was not a huge registry and nothing outrageously expensive. A few of my employees right before my wedding pooled their money and bought all of the plates and bowls still not bought from my every day dishes selection. A huge box of the odds and ends! There were a few people who said they wanted to give me something more unique than a registry item, but most of them stayed within the theme of my register so it was fine, but I still have a couple gifts never used from my wedding 18 years ago. Still, that box that finished off my dishes with 3 dinner plates, 5 salad plates, and 6 bowls, sticks out in my mind as one of my favorite gifts. And, then many relatives gave me cash.
I think it depends on customs within a family, cultural differences. Some people think it is awful to give money.