How should I handle this "break" in my relationship?
Is it worth it to keep my fight for love for the guy who asks for a break in a relationship? Main reason he mentioned was to catch up with friends (long time friends), and partly was because after being in a relationship for so long, we’ve started to lose friends here and there, but after knowing him for so long… he’s never really cared.
But as I have seen the way things have been happening, fights about little things, my point of view of his taking some times a part is to get away from me, am I right?
We’ve been in a relationship for 4 years, and hopefully counting. But it doesnt seem like (to me) that he cares anymore. He shows signs that he cares, but he kept on bottling up and acting harsh on me (showing me that he can careless about what I do and what I want to do to save the relationship).
I realized today, after a couple of days of not seeing him, since he’s staying at his parents’ house, that he’s very unresponsive to me. He texted once to see if the house still has hot water, but other than that… he’s on his own way to do things he’d like to do.
On top of that, he said that he’s planning to meet up with another girl whom I have never met, mentioned to me once or twice, but he has never really introduced me to her. Since we’re apart on our own ways, he said to her that he will meet up (driving about 15 miles just to go and visit his “old friend- a guy” and on the way, another 2 miles to meet up with her “not an old friend”). I asked him about where he will be going, he just kept on saying, “I’m meeting up with my old guy buddies, nothing else.”
I found out about it (from my friend who happens to know her), and I decided to call him to see if he would set aside sometimes with me (after his meetup buddy), and call to say that I wanted to meet up and hang out for an hour or two since I will be in the area, he said he will be busy—the whole day. I asked him what he will be busy of, he said meeting up with a couple of old friends. Nothing mentioned about meeting up with her.
On the side note, before we took our “time apart,” I did mentioned about the small possibility to him to not meet up with any girls that he’d have a chance of liking, because then his mind wont be thinking about our relationship, but rather this whole meet up will cloud his judgement upon our relationship and well…
All I wanted was some mutual reciprocity, so he can use his “away time” to think about this relationship, and I can use my away time to think about the same thing.
In two days, he will tell me if he wants this relationship to work. He will either tell me yes or no. Again, hes the one asking for a break in the relationship.
During this whole time, before the break, hes been meeting this girl sometimes during the day, almost every day. And contacted her a couple of times without me knowing… I noticed because she started calling, and he started calling while I’m in the bathroom or so… I dont know what they talk about in particular, but the conversation (as day goes on) have been increasing about more than just a “chit chat”. Nothing serious, about liking each other, I know.
Is this worth fighting for? Is he worth waiting for? Should I wait til tuesday to make sure everything is over for good? Because I need an advice. I’m completely lost and in distraught. I’ve never really taken a break from a guy in a relationship that I have had for so long.
This question is open for both sides. Please help.
Thank you!
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