@FutureMemory Since I can’t give the stronger example because many will simply explode about the head and neck and we don’t want guts all over the walls, I will use a soft tacit example.
You have a 4 day weekend and you and your ”boys” decide to take a rustic getaway out in the wild. You will have to tramp back into the bush where you will make camp. You figure terrain wise with your full packs on you will average about 1.5 miles in an hour. You are going in 7 miles. Hike 3 miles, break for an hour and then another two hours and you are at the area you want to camp. Then someone’s woman wants to come, and she is not a big woman. She can’t schlep as much as the guys. Everything needed to survive has to be on your back. So, if he don’t carry part of her load the whole group has to travel slower, or leave way earlier. And if some other guy could not leave earlier because they have to take the kids back to the mother, or work late and won’t get enough sleep, it will take longer to get to the site of the camp. If he carries her extra load it will mean he might slow the group down. If the maximum amount of time is to be wrung out of the weekend spending an extra hour and a half or longer getting there means everything else gets delayed. Rather than him saying ”Dear, it is a very hard schlep, and you physically will slow the group down. Maybe next time when we have an easier trip or more time”, he is going to whine and plead to let her go along. She won’t be that slow, promise. I will help her along. Why? Because he is afraid if he tells her the truth, she don’t have the physicality to hang she will get mad and when he comes home all tired and horny she won’t give it up. He would rather sink or lessen the trip for everyone else than have enough stones to risk going an extra 3, 5, 7 day with no sex.
That is the milk toast example, as I say, can’t give the harder ones people might have some heart attack or start to see red as their collars got steamed.