Personally, I can’t imagine spending that kind of money on a wedding. My first wedding (1992) cost about $6,000 in a nice venue, with me in a very pretty dress, great food and cake, etc. We had about 85 people there.
The second wedding (2003) was done by my best friends. Less food, but still really good, the cake was a gift from my middle sister (she made it), the husband wore a suit he already had, my dress cost $20 from a catalogue sale & another $20 to have it hemmed. We had about 20 guests. All told, we spent about $1200.
Just a side note. In 1963 my dad offered my oldest sister either the wedding that she wanted or $5000 in cash and she could do whatever she wanted with it. She took the wedding. I just looked it up and that’s about $29,000 in today’s dollars. In 1969 he made the same offer to two more of my marrying sisters. They both took the wedding. In today’s money, that’s about $24,500. I think they were both foolish, but it was their choice. What’s annoying is that by the time I got married, he never made the offer!