One of my biggest pet peeves and a red flag is lack of asking and low conscientiousness!
I have an old flame that dropped in a few weeks ago and I noticed how respectful he was in closing my gate when he left. I meant to tell him not to bother as my animals were not out in the yard, but, he left my house as he found it, with the gate closed. I noticed and told him how I had always appriciated his respectful manners.
On the flip side, someone I don’t know well, that had never been to my house, but KNOWS I have cats and geese, showed up with their dog, without even bothering to ask if that would be okay.
Not only that, but when I told him his dog had to stay out on my deck, he allowed her to follow him into my house and the, BIG RED FLAG of boundary ‘testing’, he simply made the statement ” Oh, Crackers came in.” Then he made NO effort to put the dog out again. I definitely got the vibe he was testing my boundaries. He was also very pushy in pressuring me to invite him over.
Needless to say, he will NOT be coming back to my house. lol