This probably counts as your first introduction to a game called “Rescue Me!” Girls like to play this game because either they really have a problem and need help, or because they need to create something exciting and dramatic (with them in the center) so that they can make up for whatever it is that’s missing (feeling loved, maybe). What’s true in either case is that the girl is not making good choices for herself. Now and throughout your dating life, you should regard this as a red flag. It’s very natural to think that the real problem is that there’s a bad guy out there who’s threatening her, but chances are good that the real problem is the girl is not making good choices. As long as that problem isn’t fixed, the girl will continue to bring you this kind of trouble no matter how much you help.
At your age, much of this is just games. Girls learn that they can get attention from boys by crying for help and by playing with boys’ natural inclinations to fix problems and be the hero.
Ask yourself this question (and assuming her parents are normal and supportive of her). If she really wanted to get out of her relationship with him but couldn’t because she felt trapped, then wouldn’t she go to her parents for help?
Here’s a true story, and this isn’t to scare you, it’s just to demonstrate one way this can play out when something like this happens to adults. A woman had her abusive boyfriend sent to jail. He vowed to kill her when he got out of jail. Before his release, she put a personal ad in the paper with the hopes of meeting a very manly man who would protect her. She found a very manly man, and they started dating. When the boyfriend was released from prison, he found them, followed them home, shot them both and then burned their house down with them in it.
So what do you do in these kinds of situations? It’s hard not to want to help because you’re a caring person and you have someone coming to you who needs help. It seems like she has feelings for you and it’s probably not hard for you to start having feelings for her, because you already started having a feeling of wanting to help.
When you first encounter something like this it’s very hard to say no, and many guys don’t know enough to recognize the situation as a trap of sorts. Only later or with some experience falling into a few traps do they begin to understand that the real problem is something else. So, my advice is to steer clear of this mess if you can and try next time to pick a girl who doesn’t need to be rescued. If you just can’t resist, then go ahead and play the role of the hero, save her from the bad guy and then pay attention to the outcome to see if any of the above is true.