It is always a very somber feeling for me to enter the funeral home for visitation with the deceased’s family and friends prior to a funeral service. I always go if I am able to go. I feel nervous and time sort of slows down. After I get inside and the first person acknowledges my presence; the nervousness subsides somewhat.
I think that is the whole point though. To acknowledge each other and to acknowledge the deceased. It helps to just show up sometimes when people we know are having a difficult time. When you experience a loss, it really helps (maybe not immediately at the funeral home; maybe even weeks or months or years later) to look back at the people who showed up for your family. It helps you through the grieving process when you realize the people your life and your love one’s life impacted.
To me, just showing up at a funeral home is a way of saying, “Hey, this person and their family matters to me and had an impact on my life.” It is nice to know that there are people who thought enough of you or your loved one to show up one last time and say goodbye and be there to support you in a time of great sadness.
The very ceremony is part of the grieving process for everyone and a way of showing respect.
I am sorry to hear about your situation. I hope you know I sincerely send my best wishes to you and the family of the this woman. Just know you aren’t the only one who is nervous. It is easier after you get through the doors and see the first person you know. You don’t have to go into the viewing room if there is one. Just relax and take a deep breath.The whole process is healing and the family will never forget that you cared enough to come.