I an Aspie that has been married for over ten years to a girl I started dating in 1994.
Granted, it’s sometimes hard for her as I am not exactly communicative most of the time, and when I am, it often takes me a few minutes to wrap my head around the sort of things that my wife and most other people grasp intuitively (probably in much the same way I understand technology intuitively while others don’t) She often misgauges my mood, especially since when I get my attention diverted from whatever I am thinking about, there is often a split-second of visible annoyance as I am yanked out of the little world in my head and back to reality; she doesn’t quite get that such a thing is merely due to the shock of “shifting gears” and sometimes takes it as actually being mad at her. By the same token, I sometimes take her raising her voice as a sign that she is upset when she isn’t.
After being together so long, I have learned to read her mood fairly well though; something I am not good at with people I don’t know nearly as well as someone I’ve slept with for over a decade. But like I said above, we still sometimes send/read the wrong messages.
I have come to accept that she is not nearly as excited about my phone getting the upgrade from Froyo to Gingerbread as I am, but I still sometimes forget that she doesn’t have nearly the appreciation for cars that I do. She has come to accept that I sometimes ‘geek out” and am a bit of a magpie when it comes to technology.
But we manage to overcome whatever issues that come up as a result of me being me as we complement each other nicely; we each have what the other lacks and, as a result, we make a great team.
As for what it’s like from her side… I’ll have to forward this to her and she can get to it when she gets out of work. I know what it’s like to be an Aspie in love, but I only have a vague idea as to what it’s like to be in love with an Aspie, and I think you might be interested in getting both sides.