I don’t think getting attached to looking a certain way is a very good thing, or at least not a fun one.
As I mentioned in some other post, I recently dyed my hair pink. All of it, hot pink. I think the popular opinion on very obviously artificial hair colour is that it’s unattractive if not just blatantly ‘tacky’, not to mention that even when I brought up the idea to my friends a few years ago the general consensus was “no.”
However after wanting to do this for so long, I recently came to the conclusion that it’s my hair and I do think it looks fantastic, so I should just do it. So I did. And I feel all the better about going with it! It’s nice to stop just saying “it doesn’t matter if no one else likes it as long as you like it” like an asshole and to start actually doing it.
Plus, I’m typically very wallflower-like – not so much in terms of appearance, but in my general demeanor. I feel like I’m a little more confident now. I’ve made a big change, and anything else I do – not wearing the makeup that makes me feel more comfortable, wearing the glasses I’m not really a fan of, wearing a possibly questionable pair of shoes, even saying something weird – pales in comparison. So when obnoxious teenagers make snarky comments about my hair when they pass me, it honestly doesn’t bother me. I like it and I own up to it.