I draw the line when you have to brush off week old used food containers just to find a place to sit, after walking across a sticky floor/rug, covered with so much trash you can’t avoid stepping on it. The place smells like spoiled food, and they are always complaining about the ants and mice. There are used diapers piled outside the front door.
I never visit my son and daughter in law because of that and their junk filled yard. It just breaks my heart, because we spent a fortune on their landscaping and the wall to wall carpeting was brand new when they moved in. The walls, which were freshly painted are now covered with splashed soda and other debris, and scribbled up with permanent markers up to three feet high. The bathroom is covered in mold, and I’m allergic to mold.
Two of the brand new screens we put in last year are broken, along with the locks we installed. The floor of the laundry room and the wall behind the washer and dryer is also covered with mold. They keep bread, crackers and other shelf food in the dishwasher, because there is not enough cupboard space and the entire kitchen is littered with dirty dishes.