Yes, under duress and when I was in an unhealthy marriage to a cheater and a drinker.
He was even more so.
The power struggles were epic for years.
This was years ago, and I too, have done my “work”.
I have completely, 100% revised, what I believe relationship to be, and it certainly does not include control.
My “control” was fear based, while my ex’s was just plain opressive and based on dominance, power.
I can also say that while I was a “victim” of lots of dysfunction during that time, I also never lied or manipulated, where my ex was highly passive aggressive too and playing mind games was his strength. lol
I now believe that “traditional” ideas of relationship are very damaging.