Please tell us:

- Where you fell in the birth order.
– If you felt competitive.
– What gender you and your siblings are.
– If your parents encouraged the competition.

I have a theory that older siblings generally feel they were not trying to be competitive, and did not care about competing with younger siblings, while younger siblings feel they have to compete, or measure up.

I am the oldest, I don’t feel I competed with my sister at all, and I never felt like I wanted or needed to. My parents overall did not encourage us to compete, but every now and again there were stray comments that complimented a strength in one of us, that may have inadvertently made the other feel like they did not measure up as well on that particular thing. Still, it was very rare, mostly they encouraged us to play together, and be individuals.