There is some kind of dream/sleep techniques (maybe it’s called lucid dreaming, not sure) in which you consciously decide, while you’re awake, how you will tackle a problem. So before you go to sleep each night, think of what you want to do. If it were me, I would want to turn around and face the bear, and have the bear suddenly turn into Winnie the Pooh or Baloo from the Jungle Book. Then I’d talk to the bear and have a nice cup of tea or something like that.
I think if you decide what you want to do, before you go to sleep and then make sure you are in a nice relaxed state before you go to bed (wind down about an hour or so before you go to sleep and talk that hubby of yours into giving you a foot massage) this bear will either disappear altogether or you’ll end up liking him, after all. Maybe you’ll end up doing a dance and singing “The Bare Necessities”!