One thing I find helpful with the loud intimidators is to think of them as just rolling thunder; it is the silent lightning that is capable of the actual damage! Also, if you are a person that normally loves to be cooperative, it can be harder to catch that you are being manipulated – that form of intimidation is so subtle.
I agree that quiet reflective times are valuable – there is too much noise in our lives. For reading, try to find things that meet you where you are at in your needs for affirmation and spirituality. Jack Canfield is very famous for his line “No matter what you say or do to me, I’m still a worthwhile person.”